BLOG #23: What Are You Leaving Behind In 2014?

What are you leaving behind in 2014 and changing in 2015? 

Here's my list...

• I'm leaving behind negative people who always see the pessimistic side of things in a situation. Especially those who are constantly speaking negativity over others. Life is so much better when you make a strong effort to stay positive.

• I'm leaving behind trying to explain myself to those that I respect and love. If you don't get it, don't get why, or don't get me, that's OK. But I don't owe anyone an explanation at this point in my life. But I still love you though... lol.

• I'm leaving behind people who only come around when it benefits them. But as soon as you do something they don't like, or things don't go their way, they totally forget about all that you've done for them. Instead of solving the problem, they fixate on one small issue, and turn their back on you.

• I'm leaving behind over-extending myself to people who have a sense of self-entitlement and don't appreciate my time and efforts. First time, shame on them. Second time, shame on me, for being too nice.

• I'm leaving behind those who don't express how they REALLY feel. It really frustrates me to hear from others how someone else feels. Especially when that person could have expressed those sentiments directly to the source involved. Face your issues and problems head on, deal with them directly... Leave others and the messy drama out of it.

• I'm leaving behind those who cast stones and hide their hands. If I do something wrong and you ask me, I'll admit it. But nothing irks me more than people who disrespect you or try to throw you under the bus, then smile in your face. My tolerance for this kind of stuff is at an all time low.

These are the kinds of people and situations that I will be avoiding in 2015, due to my experiences that took place in 2014.

Who or what are you leaving behind in 2014???

My hopes and wishes is that 2015 will be AWESOME for us all!


-JUST JEMIA

BLOG #23: What About The Husbands???

I had a good talk with a friend today and we discussed some interesting points. As a society we tend to praise mothers, good fathers and even wives (anniversaries/Valentine's Day are usually aimed more towards the wife). But how often do you see husbands being praised? As a new wife, I am teaching myself to not only pat myself on the back when accomplishing wifely duties, but always praising my husband for his support, efforts and sacrifices. While discussing our thoughts with my friend, I came across these thought-provoking "wife" quotes.

"Too many of us have virtually no respect for what a husband really needs, but we have unlimited respect for our own needs. And we’re not only hurting our husbands-–we’re hurting ourselves."

"We judge ourselves by our intentions. We judge our spouses by their actions."

"Marriage is meant to be more about your surrender than about your satisfaction."

"Don’t let another day go by where the health of your relationship is sacrificed for a false sense of peace."

"You might think that you have all of the answers and need to protect your husband from making the wrong choice, but nagging, pouting, losing your temper and complaining aren’t going to make him a better man."

"Never think that you are doing your children a favor by prioritizing them over your husband."

"A child-centered marriage is a recipe for disaster. Teach children early that their “happiness” is not Mom or Dad’s reason for living." 

Do any of these quotes hit close to home? How often do we forget that our husbands are human as well and have feelings too. None of us are perfect. Your spouse is your life partner, not your child, treat them as such. Sometimes our complaints and irritations towards our husbands can be a deflection from our own insecurities and the changes we need to make within ourselves. Before desecrating him in front of your children, your family, your friends or in public, STOP, THINK AND PRAY. Always remember that actions and words can be forgiven, but they are rarely forgotten.

Ladies, cherish your husbands. Focus on what they do right and what they do good for you. So often we fixate on all of the negativity and we forget to praise them. Society forgets to praise them. All husbands are not great, but neither are all wives... Before you point the finger and place the blame, look at yourself in the mirror first. Then rediscover the feelings, the emotions, the love and the happiness that made you want to marry him in the first place.

Much love to all of the awesome husbands out there! Thanks for all of your support, drive, determination and love. And a special thanks to my love of 6 1/2 years, my amazing husband of almost 8 months, Adrian. I am so grateful for a husband who pays the bills, can cook, wash dishes, does the laundry, cleans the house, takes
[ out the trash, keeps up the yard, washes our cars, maintains our cars, pumps my gas, goes grocery shopping, massages my feet after HE has worked for 12 hours, etc. This list could go on and on. While I do most of the stuff listed above as well, there are SO MANY times when I don't have to worry or lift a finger because he tells me, "I've got it," with a smile. Thank you Mr. Storey for making me feel loved, making me feel beautiful and making me feel complete. I love you Baby!


~JUST JEMIA :o) 

On Our Wedding Day ~ November 2, 2013